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Wednesday, September 07, 2005

no more pencils, no more books

Wow. There I was moaning that nothing much was going on, and suddenly you're all busy asking each other questions and generally getting better acquainted. It's like we're all first years in our first week at University and we've been shyly introducing ourselves to our room-mates and next-door neighbours. I reckon we've got to the stage where we are all kind of gathered together in the TV room and we're trying to break the ice.

It's quite sweet. I think some of you are even flirting.

I don't want to put a downer on things, but I think I can guarantee you that within 3 months:

--> you will be unable to stand the sight of the person you first made friends with

--> Someone will be foolishly trying to grow a moustache / goatee

--> There will have been a lot of drunken snogging

--> You still won't have cooked anything more ambitious than a baked potato

--> you will have an amazing capacity to drink watered down beer

Obviously, my role in all this is that of the dispassionate observer. It is, after all, the role I played when I actually was at University.

Best days of your life, apparently.

I graduated 10 years ago and I haven't ever had cause to look back at my time in University with any great fondness (and what fondness I have tends to fade every time they ring me up and ask me if I'd care to make a donation).

Of course I had some fun when I was there: I drank a lot, I went to Glastonbury for the first time, I messed around on the University Radio Station, I discovered email and the internet, I spent 4 months living and studying in Venice.... Yes, some good times. On the whole though, I would say that the time I spent at school has proven to have a much more lasting impact on my life. Many of the things that seemed to make University so exciting to others were not really a big deal to me. I had been at boarding school since the age of seven, and so living away from my parents was nothing new to me. For better and for worse, it was at school that most of my attitudes to life were shaped. University gave me some excellent intellectual training, but I'm not sure what else it taught me. Not much about life, anyway.

I think it speaks volumes that I am in touch with only one person I met at University, and I'm in daily contact with lots of the people I went to school with.

Still, you enjoy yourselves eh? Don't mind me.

17 Comments:

  • At 10:24 pm, Blogger HistoryGeek said…

    Okay, Mr. Lycra Man (dispassionate observer? Really?!)...more like the guy who quietly gets the pranks started then steps back out of the way when the police show up and says, "Honestly officer, I warned them, I did."

    University may not have been the best years of my life, but they were a time of growth and exploration for me - although I have to say that the years following just got better. However, I'm still in contact with 6 or 7 friends (4 of whom lived in the dorm with me that first year - 1 was even the randomly chosen roommate) from that time. Sadly, none of them actually live in the same state with me.

     
  • At 10:36 pm, Blogger Erika said…

    I never flirt. Never.

     
  • At 12:06 am, Blogger adem said…

    I always wish that my Uni years had been like those American Frat House movies. I did know Jocks, Nerds, Babes, the token Japanese exchange student, and did chug a lot of beer but it wasn't the same.

    I did evolve as a person though at university and I would definitely be a different person today if I hadn't gone.

    I still see mates from University but I see my friends from school everyday.

     
  • At 12:54 am, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    What was boarding school like?

     
  • At 1:59 am, Blogger Di Gallagher said…

    Having never gone to university, I have no idea what you are talking about. Unfortunalty it shows.

     
  • At 5:48 am, Blogger Aravis said…

    adem, I lived the American Frat House university film and believe me, you didn't miss a thing.

    ST, I was the observer. Spin is right: you're The Instigator. *G*

     
  • At 10:26 am, Blogger John McClure said…

    *shaving*

     
  • At 11:29 am, Blogger The Num Num said…

    over the self-pity yet ;-)

    Uni was fun, I wish I had studied harder though, I might not be stuck in this shit hole of a job wondering if I could have done better.

    Sob.Now you've got me started.

     
  • At 11:55 am, Blogger LB said…

    I speak to one person I went to school with and lots and lots that I went to Uni with, just to present the flip side of this argument.

    I had a great time at Uni, it taught me most I think of what I know now. Rubbish music, how to be useless with girls and how to grow ridiculous hair.

    ahem.

     
  • At 12:28 pm, Blogger swisslet said…

    I'm not saying that no one learns anything at university, only that I reckon the impact of university was lessened for me because I learnt many of the same things at a boarding school.

    It's not self-pity, and I'm not moaning... I'm just observing based on my own experience.

    Instigator? Not really.

    ST

     
  • At 4:11 pm, Blogger Flash said…

    I always flirt. Always.

     
  • At 8:22 pm, Blogger swisslet said…

    Hello Fox.

    I went to school here

    I did my BA here

    and I did my MA here

    The Universities are both fine academic institutions....

    ST

     
  • At 8:47 pm, Blogger swisslet said…

    Yeah - I've spoken quite a lot about my schooling and what it did to me in the past. Like I say though - it has been enormously influential in making me who I am (or maybe I have become who I am in spite of that?). That doesn't mean that my time at boarding school is something I look back on with great nostalgia.

    To pluck one example at random that I haven't told you before, we used to have one evening a week when we had to walk the km or so between the science block and our english class. On the way over, we would pass the year above us, who were heading in the opposite direction. It was traditional that they would do everything in their power to make us drop out folders on the ground, or to make us fall over - shoves, pushes, kicks, barges... whatever it took. It was like running the gauntlet, every single week. Somehow it was tolerated, perhaps even smiled upon as high jinks. People generally left me alone as I was already well over six foot tall, but it horrified me. It's so barbaric. I think you had to be a certain type of personality to come through that intact: you either joined in, or you kept a little wall around your inner self that you hid away and kept protected, or you were crushed by it. At public school, I think you grow up fast, or you don't grow up at all, and remain trapped in a world of silly slang and floppy hair for the rest of your life.

    When I was at Warwick, I took a huge amount of pleasure that no one really picked me out as a former public schoolboy (people are still quite surprised when they find out, and it's not something I volunteer because people have such preconceptions). I hated, and still hate, the boorish idiots from public schools who run around braying and flicking their hair about and flashing their money. Horrible, horrible people. I went to school with lots of them, and I've been running away from them ever since. I sometimes get emails from friends reunited from these characters, and I am staggered. Did they not realise that I would rather poke my eyes out than meet up with them and reminisce? I have bumped into some of them (through the friends I am still in touch with), and tragically lots of them have never really moved on.

    School taught me an awful lot, but I never forget that I left that behind in 1992.

    ST

     
  • At 9:08 pm, Blogger HistoryGeek said…

    ACK! No wonder you think of yourself as the observer.

     
  • At 9:23 pm, Blogger Ali said…

    It looks like I have missed all the fun. However you will pleased to know that your Interrogation is virally propagating on Livejournal now.

    :)

    I sometimes flirt, sometimes.

     
  • At 10:20 pm, Blogger LB said…

    it's a very nice University and I have to thank it for giving me the hair I have today.

    eh?

    oh.

    they don't measure that in the league tables, do they?

     
  • At 11:14 pm, Blogger swisslet said…

    have you spotted the one friend from university I'm still in touch with yet?

    ST

     

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